Amazing people amaze me

Throughout this process, and it’s been a process, I have constantly been amazed by people. I have made new friends, learned a lot from my family and have made an amazing connection to my wife. I’ve put a lot of emotions on this site over the last few months and I want to put one more — gratitude.

This is a post of thanks. Thank you for your support, advice and compassion as Kelci and I have gone through this. We’re getting close to Kylah’s arrival and before I shift gears and turn my attention to a new love of my life, I wanted to make sure some people got a brief thank you.

My family

Baby bumps unite!

My cousin and aunt have answered out questions and even took time to organize a wonderful shower that brought our family together to celebrate our pending arrival. Oh, did I mention my cousin could go into labor any time? She’s even more pregnant than Kelci, if that’s possible. Well, scratch that. My cousins welcomed a little boy named Tysen into the world today, Aug. 3. Well done guys! Can’t wait to meet him.

Grandma represented with Kylah's first Seahawks teeshirt.

Kelci’s mom has been an absolute godsend. Her words of encouragement have been priceless and her motherly touch has been exactly what Kelci has needed at times.

Our friends

I don’t know the etiquette of pregnancy, who is supposed to do what, etc… But one thing I knew is that I need a good base of friends to get through this. Luckily I have found this. People like:

That blindfold smelled abnormally good.

Kristy and Karianne. Let’s face it. The concept of the baby shower can be boring, stale and outdated. If you want to have a rad baby shower, let these two rad ladies plan it. They have both been a sounding board for me, offering guidance and helping me make this pregnancy easier on Kelci. Follow Kristy and Karianne on Twitter and tell them thank you for us.

Other friends you should know about: Veronica, Liana, Kevin and Greg.

Good friends

He's the one on the left, I promise.

My best friend Nathan is just that. I’m thankful that I have such a good guy to call a friend. I hope you’re ready to maybe have your birthday annexed. It’s for a good cause though.

Update: The thing about these kinds of posts is you always forget people. People like Darren, who was the first to comment below. He has been an amazing source of information, tips and advice. He has been a voice of reason and calm reassurance. He’s been a role model for caring and compassion as well. Also, Jennifer Leggio gets a special thank you. She sent Kelci and Kylah an amazing bag that will keep them both glamorous. Thank you both for what you’ve done for us.

There’s been a lot more, but it’s late and I have to go take care of Kelci. They say it takes a village to raise a child. Kelci and I have an amazing village around us and we’re very thankful to have everybody in our lives that we do. I have learned a lot about myself, about the people that I have around us and I have learned to be thankful for all of that.

It just got real

Tonight we had our last baby class. There was no gruesome video. There was no talk of C-Sections, breech presentations or low birth weights. Instead we took a tour of the birth center where in a few short weeks we’ll be welcoming Kylah into the world.

It just got real.

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been learning about the birth process (I didn’t know the baby does almost a whole twist on the way out) and perfecting my swaddling technique. But the real work has been happening in my mind. I know I’ve talked about being nervous, anxious etc… and I am. But I’m also getting closer to being ready. I’m happy. Kelci is amazingly beautiful. And falling asleep while feeling her move brings me immeasurable joy.

We’re less than six weeks from our due date. This has been an amazing journey.

And it’s just beginning.

Men’s Guide to Morning Sickness

You feel helpless when you hear her in the bathroom. You offer water or crackers, but you’d like to offer her relief. But you also smile because it’s normal. It’s part of the process.

Kelci’s battling morning sickness right now. In fact, she literally is battling right now. But I wanted to offer some coping mechanisms for the guys out there. Let’s face it. Puking, dry heaving, wretching etc… isn’t pretty. But apparently it comes with the territory.

What is morning sickness?

According to the Mayo Clinic, morning sickness can occur any time of the day and is generally attributed to “… rapidly rising levels of estrogen, which causes the stomach to empty more slowly. Pregnant women also have a heightened sense of smell, so various odors — such as foods cooking, perfume or cigarette smoke — may cause waves of nausea in early pregnancy.”

This seems to be just one of the many joys that comes with the massive amount of hormones coursing through her body…

What can I do about it?

Hold her hair and tell her she’s beautiful. Really. I find myself smiling each time because it means she’s normal. She’s pregnant. But I also know she’s miserable, so I want to help her.

Keep some crackers around. They help absorb the stomach bile and also get something back into the stomach after it’s been emptied.

Keep her hydrated. You lose a lot of fluid when you puke. She needs to keep hydrated so she doesn’t cramp, keeps her core temperature down and helps ease the early pregnancy fatigue. I’ve found that ginger beer is also good, since it ginger is a natural anti-nausea relief.

Keep her happy. Her back and tummy hurt from puking, so give them a rub. Make sure you have water and maybe a toothbrush at the ready. Tell her she’s beautiful, even when she’s turned an odd shade of green.

Keep your distance. Sometimes she just wants to be sick. Be aware of when she’s ready for you to leave her alone and be aware of when you should be by her side.

So, there you have it. Be patient with her. She probably doesn’t know what the hell’s happening either.